WOMAN AS A MOTHER Islam has given great honour to women, and more so to a mother.
The Beloved Rasool  taught us the importance of loving our
A man came to Prophet  and told him that he had taken a vow that
should Allah grant Rasoolullah  victory at Makkah, he would go to
Kaaba and kiss its entrance. The Prophet  instructed him: ‘Go and
kiss the feet of your mother. Your vow will be complete.’ (Allama
Aynee – Umdat al Qari, sharah al-Bukhari)
Hazrat Abdullah ibn Abbas reported that a Sahabi came to the
Holy Prophet  and said: I had taken a vow that when Allah Ta’ala
conquers Makkah for you, I would go there and kiss the doorsill of
the Ka’aba. The Holy Prophet  said: Kiss the feet of your mother. Indeed! You will have fulfilled your vow. (‘Umdatul Qari,
Vol. 15, Pg. No. 141)
It must be noted that the very important role that a woman plays, is
that of a loving and caring mother. The respect that has been given
to the mother is a very exalted one. The Prophet  said, “Paradise is
under the feet of the mother.”
In other words, if the mother is not pleased with the child, the child
will not be able to attain Jannat. As a mother, the responsibilities
are very great. The mother is always the first teacher to her child,
and her child learns that which the mother portrays. Some of the
duties of the mother towards her child in the light of the Shariah
1. To care and show love and tenderness towards your children, not
hurting their feelings or showing hatred towards them.
2. To make sure that the child is in good health and to care for the
hygiene of one’s children.
3. If there is no difficulty in suckling, then the mother should suckle
her child, as this is of great benefit to the child. Note: A mother may
not suckle her child for more than two years.
4. Avoid shouting and unnecessarily frightening your children as this
psychologically effects the child
5. When the child first learns to talk, teach them the Name of Allah
and His Rasool  and other good words. Read the Kalima to them,
so it is embedded in their hearts.
6. When the child reaches an age of learning, then first teach them
the Holy Qur’an and Islamic education.
7. Teach them Islamic morals and ethics. They should be taught
respect for their elders.
8. When the child reaches the age of seven, make sure that they are
taught the proper method of Namaaz. Teach them to differentiate
between Halaal and Haraam.
9. Keep them away from bad company.
10. Do not allow them to learn songs and dances of the unbelievers.
Teach them to recite Naat Shareef and Qasidas etc.
11. Remember to make the Aqeeqa for your children.
12. Teach them to dress Islamically
13. Teach them the proper beliefs of the Ahle Sunnat Wal Jamaat
(The Propher Sunni Way as thought by Aala Hazrat in this Era).
Forbid them from befriending non-sunnis.
14. Encourage them to frequent Meelad Shareef, Gyaarwee Shareef
and other Islamic events.
15. Do not allow them to frequent places of sin, such as cinemas,
nightclubs etc.
Your children are given to you in trust from Almighty Allah. Do not
betray this trust. Bring them up in the manner that Islam has
commanded. The Prophet  has stated that amongst the things that
will benefit a person after death, is if he or she left behind pious
children on earth.
Remember! Pious children will pray for you when you have passed
away. This will however not happen, if you did not bestow Islamic
Knowledge upon them. May Almighty Allah bless us all with pious
children who will serve His Deen. Aameen